Feeds:
Posts
Comments

Dumped

It feels out of place writing about the topic of being dumped in the midst of the Corona Virus global pandemic (one can create an entire blog on this unprecedented worldwide event). But I happen to remember a song that may go well with losing someone in a romantic relationship, either by being let go by the other person, or for another reason that is not deliberately done by the other person.

Have you been dumped before? I have. Man…that was painful. Thankfully, that happened many, many years ago. And I got over it after a year. I hated the guy so much when he did that to me. All I could think of were his negative qualities – or in fairness to him, what I perceived back then were his negative qualities. Because now, I believe that how you perceive people and things hugely depends on what is going on within you.

Looking back, I could see later on the wisdom of having done that on his part. He had to let me go because it just was NOT working (due to differing values). A few years later, our communication resumed, just a simple hello via email. There were no hard feelings anymore. He seemed to have wanted to start again at least the friendship. But I did not see the point anymore in even maintaining that. So I just let the contact die off in a subtle way. I realized he really is a nice and caring man. My understanding is that he has remarried (was divorced from his first wife), and I am happy for him.

I learned that when a relationship ends, it may be painful for a period of time. You may feel that the pain will never end. But trust that in time, you will get over it and move on, look back and even say, “That was not a waste of time,” because you gained experience and learned some important lessons in life.

What becomes of a really great idea without action? Nothing.

– Paraphrased from “Fresh Off the Boat”

The best advice on a certain matter usually comes from the ones practicing it. But the noisiest advisers seem to be the ones who don’t do it.

– Anna on This Writer’s Delight